Reframing Control: A Biblical Perspective on a Common Struggle

In the insightful article “Is the Term ‘Control’ a Biblical Way to Describe a Seemingly Common Problem?” by Daniel Schubert, featured on the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors’ website, Schubert examines the concept of control through the lens of Scripture. He delves into how this prevalent issue, often described as “controlling” behavior, aligns with biblical teachings and what it reveals about our hearts and faith.

Defining Control Biblically

Schubert begins by exploring the term “control” and its biblical implications. While the word itself is not explicitly mentioned in the Bible, the concept is reflected in various behaviors and attitudes described in Scripture. Control, as Schubert notes, is often a manifestation of deeper heart issues such as pride, fear, and self-reliance. These behaviors can range from overt dominance and manipulation to subtle forms of sinful responses when life doesn’t go as planned.

The Spectrum of Control

The article describes a spectrum of control, highlighting how it can manifest in different ways. On one end, there are those who exert overt control, like a domineering spouse or a manipulative individual. On the other end, there are those who respond sinfully to circumstances beyond their control, exhibiting anger, anxiety, or depression. Regardless of the manifestation, the underlying issue is a misplaced trust in oneself rather than in God.

The Heart of Control

Schubert identifies key characteristics of a controlling heart:

• Self-Reliance: A person who controls often trusts in their own understanding and judgments rather than relying on God (Proverbs 3:5).
• Self-Centeredness: Control involves placing one’s own will above God’s will, as opposed to Jesus’ submission in Gethsemane (Luke 22:42).
• Circumstantial Hope: Those who struggle with control often place their hope in specific outcomes rather than in God’s promises, leading to disappointment when things don’t go their way (Proverbs 13:12).
• Usurping God’s Role: A controlling individual effectively puts themselves in God’s place, trusting their own reasoning over divine wisdom, which can lead to various negative emotional responses when their expectations aren’t met (Jeremiah 17:5-9).

Consequences of Control

Schubert outlines the detrimental effects of a controlling mindset, including:

• Emotional Exhaustion: The relentless effort to control what cannot be controlled leads to weariness and discouragement.
• Unforgiveness: Difficulty in “letting go” makes forgiveness challenging.
• Relational Strain: Control can damage relationships with God and others due to a focus on self rather than service.
• Spiritual Idolatry: Ultimately, control is a form of idolatry, where one’s desires take precedence over God’s sovereignty (2 Corinthians 5:15).

Why Control Matters to God

Control is significant to God because it redirects worship and trust from Him to ourselves. This shift, rooted in the fall of humanity, opposes God’s rightful place in our lives and disrupts the harmony He desires for His creation (Genesis 3; James 4:1-10). By focusing on fulfilling personal desires, we neglect our calling to serve God and others.

Transforming Control through Dependence on God

Schubert emphasizes the importance of trusting God fully, even when life doesn’t go as we hope. Meditating on God’s attributes—His sovereignty, wisdom, and goodness—can help us shift from self-reliance to a humble, dependent trust in Him (Psalm 103:19; Isaiah 55:8-9; Romans 8:28-29).

A Biblical Example: Joseph

Schubert uses Joseph’s story as an example of trusting God amidst adverse circumstances. Despite his brothers’ evil actions, Joseph recognized God’s sovereign control and ultimate purpose, leading to his faithfulness and trust (Genesis 50:20).

Conclusion

Schubert concludes by encouraging readers to replace sinful control with a heart that seeks God’s will and serves others. By asking “What does God want?” instead of “What do I want?” we align our desires with God’s purposes, fostering a life controlled by Christ’s love rather than personal agendas.

For a deeper exploration of this topic, read the full article by Daniel Schubert here.