Empowering Growth: Guiding Counselees to Discover Their Own Answers

In the article “Don’t Dispense Answers: Helping Counselees Learn,” Dr. Robert Kellemen from the Biblical Counseling Coalition advocates for an approach to counseling that emphasizes guiding counselees to discover their own solutions rather than simply providing answers. This method fosters personal growth, spiritual maturity, and independence in counselees, helping them develop the skills needed to navigate life’s challenges.

The Pitfalls of Dispensing Answers

Dr. Kellemen begins by discussing the potential pitfalls of an answer-based counseling approach. While giving direct answers might seem helpful, it can lead to dependency on the counselor and hinder the development of critical thinking and decision-making skills in counselees. By contrast, an approach that encourages self-discovery and active engagement allows counselees to internalize lessons and apply them more effectively in future situations.

The Power of Asking Questions

Central to this method is the use of thoughtful, open-ended questions. Dr. Kellemen emphasizes that asking the right questions helps counselees explore their thoughts, emotions, and spiritual beliefs more deeply. This process not only facilitates self-reflection but also empowers counselees to take ownership of their personal growth and healing journey.

Grounding in Biblical Wisdom

The article also underscores the importance of grounding counseling in biblical wisdom. Dr. Kellemen advocates for guiding counselees to seek answers from Scripture, helping them develop a biblical worldview and learn to rely on God’s Word as their ultimate guide. This approach not only nurtures spiritual growth but also strengthens the counselees’ faith and resilience.

Developing Critical Thinking and Problem-Solving Skills

Additionally, Dr. Kellemen highlights the value of developing critical thinking and problem-solving skills in counselees. Rather than providing immediate solutions, counselors should encourage counselees to analyze their situations, consider various perspectives, and make informed decisions. This method builds confidence and equips counselees with the tools they need to handle future challenges independently.

Building Confidence and Independence

Ultimately, the goal of counseling, as Dr. Kellemen describes, is to empower counselees to become confident and seekers of truth. By focusing on personal and spiritual growth, counselors can help their counselees develop the resilience and faith necessary to navigate life’s difficulties with greater confidence and independence.

For a more detailed exploration of this counseling approach, you can read the full article by Dr. Robert Kellemen here.